Being proactive means taking control over your life in a way that there is not much scope for the outside factors to affect you. We often develop the habit of blaming others for various things. When we can’t find people, we flame objects. But we cannot control every other person or situation. All we can do is control our own actions. And that is what proactive people do. They work on what is within their control. They do not waste time complaining or blaming.
BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND
It is easier to control your actions and words when you have a picture of what kind of a person you want to be in the future. This imagination helps us to shape our current behavior and reactions. It serves as a guideline against which we can measure ourselves. Develop a personal mission statement which allows you understand what you want to be. Once you have a picture of your future in mind, you can think about it while taking several decisions to know whether you are on the right track.
PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST
This involves prioritizing things according to your goals. We have several little things to do in our lives. But are they all equal in terms of importance? This is what we have to decide. We should make it a habit to do the important things first.
For one person to win, others do not have to necessarily lose. Effective people,have the habit of keeping others in mind as well. If they take a decision, there is something in it for everyone! Remember, there is enough for everyone to achieve in this world.
SEEK TO UNDERSTAND FIRST
We are always busy putting forward our own ideas and thoughts. We do not seek to understand the others perspective. This habit diminishes our effectiveness. We become too self-absorbed and forget to listen. So from the next time on wards, listen to the other person and then decide what to say.