We desire company and are always rooting for faithful friendship. Human beings have the tendency to crave the positive presence of others, namely friends. However, this is a two way process. Often times people look for certain traits and qualities in people in order to begin friendship. But then, they do not have those traits themselves!
A little introspection and modification never hurt anyone! Here are a few tips and expert fundamentals taken from the famous book – “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie, in order to help you be better at drawing people to your side and making them your friends.
Don’t criticise unnecessarily
Pointing out the faults in a person or in something they have done, is not always necessary. it may even be too obvious and hence there is no need to bring it to the notice of others in a deliberate fashion. Offering criticism for no substantial reason, tends to make people build defences. They may acknowledge the mistake and even thank you for pointing it out. But they might be going home with a hurting ego and resentment. So refrain from complaining and criticising.
Pay attention to detail in order to know your friends
Don’t begin by assuming things about people. If you want to get close to them, then try to observe them first. To begin with, never offer uninvited judgement. The second thing is to be a good listener. Don’t just keep talking about yourself. Remember, you want to know them. So make an effort to have them talking about their likes and dislikes. Find common topics to share opinions about.
Never get into gossiping!
You may think that taking petty information from here and there is the nice thing to do in order to make many friends at the same time. But, circulating bitter information around, especially when it is of no concern to you, will only make people lose all respect for you. as soon as become the person who gossips and is loyal to no one, you will find people avoiding you!